Relationship difficulties can develop progressively, sometimes over many years, through repeated inappropriate behaviours that result in increasing tension and dissatisfaction. Problems may also result from loss of control or personal betrayal. Sometimes these difficulties can reflect unresolved behaviours from childhood and adolescence.
It is difficult to stand back from these relationships and rationally assess and discuss how to resolve them. Strong personal identities and strong emotions work against rational solutions.
Therapy sessions include the following aims:
1. To change problematic behaviours
2. T o become more self aware
3. To become aware of internal negative emotions
4. To practice delaying automatic responses
5. To consider what happens when I get rid of my negative emotions
6. To introduce and practice strict rules for discussing differences issues
Grey, J. (1993), �Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus�, Thorsons, London